personal gravity…

Friday, December 4th, 2009

a mass distorting space-time © NASA

a mass distorting space-time © NASA

My brother has a concept of ‘personal gravity’ that he uses to describe a quality that a person demonstrates towards others. Specifically, he has used it as a stick to beat me with: complaining that I have such strong ‘personal gravity’ that I never “leave my own planet to go and visit other people’s” (ie. his)…

I think that this concept can be generalized to some advantage. Gravity – in the sense that Einstein defined it – as the distortion of space-time caused by a mass, allows parallels with a person’s ego. All masses draw other masses to them: as egos do. The greater a mass, the more likely it is to trap other masses in orbit around them: as egos can do. If the mass is great enough it will draw everything to it, including light – there is, perhaps a parallel here with an ego so massive it destroys those that come anywhere near it. Further, if we expand the analogy to the whole universe – a procedure that I imagine Jung would have considered plausible – then we have the conjecture that, if the universe were to contain enough mass, it would fold so much that its space-time would become ‘closed’… A person too ego-centred (and I do not mean this in any pejorative sense) could become folded in on herself/himself – so that she/he would become closed to all other egos…

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the curse of mirrors and photographs…

Tuesday, October 13th, 2009

It has occurred to me that mirrors and photographs of a person can be a curse. Why? Well, it seems to me that it is not natural for a person to see himself/herself from the ‘outside’. We see ourselves better and more ‘truly’ either from the ‘inside’ – or reflected in the faces and reactions of others to us. Other people, our friends and family, are the best mirrors. To see yourself in a mirror is to see yourself as an object – to split from yourself – to encourage yourself to be both subject and critic… And I believe that the healthy place for us to be is ‘in’ ourselves, looking out at the world…

Consider how alienating it is to see yourself in a mirror. If you are feeling happy with yourself, looking in a mirror can only serve to either undermine your sense of yourself, or else to promote a vanity that makes you become a caricature of yourself… that makes you behave as if you are wearing a mask…

Photos of us only serve to fix, without possibility of change, an impression of ourselves that is always going to be false. Even if – and this is rare – it captures a ‘good’ impression of us, it does so lifelessly. It can easily become a replacement for living memory – and a source of reproach for how we are getting fat, losing our hair, ageing – what benefit is that?

I went to a 25 year reunion where everyone responded with delight at seeing long lost friends. Joyfully we all were convinced that no-one had changed – been damaged by time. Of course, in any sense that is of value, this was true. However, someone brought out a photograph taken 25 years ago. And suddenly we were confronted with how we had looked – and these people seemed like children. The joy in the room was tainted by melancholy. What benefit did that photograph bring…?

I wonder if, perhaps, the injunction in Islam (and in stricter Judaism) against making representations of people (and animals) – that is always rather crudely interpreted as a fear of idols – of the Golden Calf – may be in fact the wisdom that such images (of which I would claim mirrors and, certainly, photographs examples) cause unhappiness…

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